The city we live in shapes us. It builds our identity. Unlike a car which also contributes to our identity in some way, we can not easily trade-in a city for a different city.

We participate in what a city offers and become members of a contributing community.
We are only a tourist in any other city.

In addition to basic necessities like housing, schools, public services, hospitals, libraries, and grocery stores, a city can expose us to...
Symphonies,
Art galleries,
Art shows,
Farmers markets,
Pride parades,
Independent films,
Diverse cultures,
Integrated neighborhoods where said diverse cultures mingle together,
Creative/Technical/Professional jobs,
Universities for furthering education,
Universities for learning something new,
Local musicians,
Music teachers,
Dance teachers,
Local cuisine,
World cuisine, etc.

Or a city can ignore the list and stick to the basics.

Our identity is being built either way.

We are not the audience, we are the recipients.